In Memory of...

Jennifer Duncan Young
Sept 6, 1972 - March 4, 2003
Daughter, grandaughter, sister, niece, wife, mother
...and my cousin and friend

Today, family and friends gathered to remember my dear cousin Jen who passed away five years ago. Jennifer was taken suddenly at the age of 30. She tragically left behind 3 very small children. It was a horrific time for our family and still continues to be an area of healing for many of us. I don't talk about Jen often. I honestly don't often think about Jen either. Or at least I try not to. It is easier to pretend that Jen never existed than to acknowledge this gaping hole that she left in the lives of so many. I know that is not the answer. Perhaps someday I will face her death and allow the wounds to heal. Maybe someday I will be able to recall our endless memories together without my heart breaking into a million pieces all over again. But not today and probably not tomorrow either. Hopefully someday. So just for a moment, I will remember her. I will look back on the years we shared together, as cousins and best friends. I will shed the tears I don't normally allow to fall.

Each September a benefit golf tournament is held in remberence of Jennifer. A portion of the proceeds are donated to The Pieters Life Center at Heritage Christian Home. In her honor, they invited us to a ceremony where they dedicated this beautiful bench in her memory.

As mentioned, this loss shook our whole family. All of us cousins have always been extremely close. For many of us, it was like losing a sibling. My cousin Worthy is a musician. He wrote the following song for Jennifer this past year.
Check out this video: Just One More Day

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Jen, no words could ever express how much we miss you. We expected to have so many more years with one another. I thought we would raise our children together. But God had other plans. I don't know why, but I guess he did. I still can't fully wrap my brain around the fact that you are gone. We miss you and I will love you forever. ~Sue


Wondering when you will find us said...

Sue, I am so sorry for your loss. She looks like she was such a beautiful person. Her beautiful soul is probably beside you often.Your cousin sounds great, his voice is awesome.Is he a professional singer? If not he should be.God bless your family.

Colette said...

Sue, that is so sad! I had no idea of your loss. My am crying right now for you and your family. You are all in my prayers.